Laurel’s Places to Go – Southern Oasis

A great place to check out is the Southern Oasis!  No, Del it isn’t all country music.  They do have the best line dances in SL and I say that as a person that doesn’t normally line dance at all…these I do.  Music here varies as to DJs, with DJs working from early morning to late at night so Euro and UK friendly hours as well as American time.  Most often you hear Classic Rock, Southern Rock or Country but DJ Lindsay has a hip hop set here too if you enjoy that.

The crowd is very friendly and the line dances allow you to jump right in and start having fun.  The red dots are for the ladies and the black for the gentlemen so couples can dance together or you can dance solo.  Intan dances also available for couples.  A full service bar for hanging out at or to sit at while waiting for a friend to arrive.

Southern Oasis runs contest nearly every shift and they are proportional to win so even a few votes can win you a linden prize quite often.  The contest theme was Winter Wonderland on my visit.  You will need a Southern Oasis VIP tag to enter the contests and vote in them.  You can also catch some live music programs here.  A new singer, Jewell is one not to miss at the Oasis!  Definately worth a visit if you are looking for a friendly new hangout with consistant traffic. Nearby shops also available for last minute contest wear or to rent.

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Laurel’s Places to Go – Ambrosia Dance Club

Late night in SL?  Looking for something to do?  You can usually find a hopping dance floor at the Ambrosia Dance Club.  The music depends on the DJ present but they do generally have DJs even in the wee hours.  Lady GaGa was there on my visit (in the cyan blue), I detest her but fortunately she didn’t attempt to “sing”.  My partner is still away so I couldn’t get his opinion on this venue.  I prefer it to say…Dance Island but would like more consistancy to the music.  The music during my visit was modern rock & dance with some oldies and an occasional vulgar hip hop song tossed in. 

Dancing for couples and singles are available.  Give it a try? Follow the red carpet from the tp point to get to the club.   http://slurl.com/secondlife/Ambrosia%20Dance%20Club/55/150/304

Music Break for Julianna

For Julianna one of your favorite Ben Taylor songs (son of James Taylor and Carly Simon).

Grats to Del and Frannie and Other News

My ex SL Husband Del and his new wife Frannie have recently married.  I wish them the best!  Yes, really I do…no sacarasm at all.  I was invited to the wedding actually but thought my presence might be distracting on their happy day. Thought it was best to feel good that I was invited but yet stay away. I had a wedding day with him, her turn now without me hanging around which might have been awkward for her.

I have about an hour left of my RL birthday left and missing Nitram so have a music video for him which follows featuring the gorgous voice of David Gates. Looks like a Great Lake in that illustration, dear.

Emotional Griefers

Emotional Griefers is what I call them, you might not have heard the term before but I’m sure you have run into them before.  “Griefer” is a term used in the on-line gaming world for someone who intentionally causes problems for others.  Emotional Griefers are to me people that for some reason known only to themselves like to create emotional pain for others any chance they get.  A friend of mine has a much simpler name for them…simply “Scum”, which is also quite accurate.

The same friend of mine quite recently left a position she loved in SL because an emotional griefer she was avoiding (which seems to be the best way to deal with them because they love attention even if it is negative) was hired misguidedly it seems at the club she was working at.  Unfortunate, but I guess once you have seen someone deliberately cause problems for others while falling back on a sympathy story when caught happen many times.  The best move is to stay away from them at all costs.  The people at that club will learn but learn the hard way it seems. 

An emotional griefer seems to target someone or a couple that “seems too happy” in their mind and the higher the profile the more potential impact because then they can draw more people into it to take sides thus creating the most havok possible.  College Psychology classes would suggest to me that the griefer does this because they are unhappy in their own situation and somehow think if they could just put themselves in the other person’s position they could find the happiness that eludes themself.  So they systematically, try to ruin another person while trying to worm themselves into their position so to speak.  This particular griefer seems to have made breaking up other people’s partnerships a speciality.  After acheiving the goal, the griefer gets bored very quickly and moves on to the next target leaving behind the busted up remains of a partnership and friendships too. 

If you observe an emotional griefer in action….a one time occurance could be considered a lapse in judgment…a mistake but serial episodes gives much less reason for sympathy and more reason for scorn and avoidance.  I think my friend made the best decision she could considering the circumstances.  She’s not one that likes high drama situations so leaving to let the next chapters play out without her would be best. 

How to spot one without having to observe for awhile? They are the type of person that does anything they want without any concern for the feelings of others. They seem to be proud of that so will display something of that nature in their profiles. Something like “I’m with him and don’t care what others say or feel about it. *sweet smile* ” a kind of a “so what” statement that shows a general disregard for anyone that might be in their way. So many wonderful people in SL that we can choose to avoid those which just so happen to be the worst of what social atmospheres can offer.

It’s Been A Long Time

It’s been a long time I know but I think I should be back at least somewhat regularly now.  Nitram and I had our vacations. I got back from mine…his was longer and he came back to a family emergency that kept him away much longer than expected.  Such things do happen and I waited of course.  He’s still dealing with that so I have just been keeping busy and my time in SL is less at the moment but I do log on to see friends and think I might be around more often especially when Nitram returns.  Right now, what he needs to deal with has to come first.  Can’t wait to see him again but know it will be better if he’s not trying to squeeze time in for me while trying to cope with other issues too.

Music Break – Edward Kyomoon – Dream of You

My favorite song by Second Life Performer Edward Kyomoon.  Check out his concerts in world!

Music Break – Tiny Thriller

Laurel’s Places To Go – Great Wall

I was out and about sightseeing in Second Life last evening and decided to pay the Great Wall a visit.  The Wall winds it’s way around a whole sim and is connected to three other Asian themed sims to make for even more exploration fun! 

I even brought Jose (American Mustang horse pictured below – who was a gift from my ex SL husband Del) out for a ride to enjoy the scenery on horseback and to give him a bit of exercise.  The Great Wall in Second Life is a really nice place to go to do some relaxing sightseeing, take some pictures, ride your horse or visit the surrounding sims for still more to see or to completely outfit your Asian style home. 

It is Hosoi Design that makes this fantastic sim available to the Second Life Public.  Hosoi Design shops are on the 3 other sims for your shopping pleasure and are also very scenic as they are set up in a village setting.  So to support this fine sim you but need to take some trinket back home with you.  There are fine furnishings of all kinds, bonsai trees and even komonos for men and women available from Hosoi Design.  Definately a must see!

Nitram, my SL partner/fiance has been feeling under the weather in RL so I hope he feels better real soon.  While he has been away I have been keeping busy with projects and sightseeing is also a good way to pass the time.  Get well soon, love!

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Store Update – New Womens Outfit – Golden Butterfly

A new addition to the Womens Store at Mid Mall is Golden Butterfly.  It is a silken tank in an asian butterfly print complimented by white jeans that are belted with a gold sequined belt.  Copy/Mod Includes: Tank and Belted Pants  for only 100L

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