Laurel’s Places to Go – Irie Vibes

Looking for something different?  Tired of the same old music?  Try the Reggae music at Irie Vibes!  I know I wasn’t quite dressed for the place but I didn’t quite know where I was going when I accepted the teleport.  Yeah, that’s the excuse I am going with. 

Irie Vibes provides a bright cheerful atmosphere with happy Reggae to dance to.  I like to experience new places and new music so it was a good place to visit.  Often live DJs are available but if one isn’t available at the time of your visit, there is still a very good music stream.

Time slipped quickly away as my date and I chatted about all sorts of subjects, as we gently swayed to the music.  Had a great time so wanted to share this new to me place in Second Life.

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Irie/42/153/22/

50 Questions

A good friend of mine shared a snip of conversation with me yesterday that sparked a topic to write about.  Yes, that is how I get most of what I write about ideas from things that have either happened to me personally or someone I know. 

Names were changed to protect the innocent and the guilty. 

Her : Hi

Him: Hi {her name}

Her: hey how are you

Him: I am good, thank you, you?

Her: good

Her: so tell me bout your profile

Her: are you having an sl relation?

So the guy has barely rezzed and she wants to know if he has a girlfriend in Second Life.  Ooooo that’s fast.  Yes, he’s hot looking but wouldn’t you also want to know how beautiful a person he is inside that handsome avatar?  The conversation proceeded into a question and answer session that made him very uncomfortable, as would us all.  Too many questions all at once can be a huge turnoff as it makes you feel like you are in an interview for a position you might not even want to have.  *laughs* 

I prefer a softer approach myself.  Try not to ask too many questions all at once, what he/she tells you will dribble out eventually without sitting the person down on a prim stool, shining a facelight in their eyes and asking for their last three years of tax returns.  Trust me…you might even find out more than you would have otherwise if you just listen well and let the other person talk.  Instead, ask questions about what they tell you and discuss things you find in common or make conversation about where you are and what is going on around you to put the person at ease. 

It will be a refreshing change from the where are you from and how old are you and other very common Second Life questions.  Really, you don’t need to know all that stuff anyway unless the newly minted friendship progresses further.  By then you will most likely have learned all you needed to know or were curious about anyway.  Start on a friends basis and move on from there.  If you have the attitude that every avatar you meet is a potential serious relationship then you will miss out on making some very wonderful friends that will not only enrich your Second Life but likely your First Life too.  Cultivate friendships like flowers and maybe one of them will blossom into something truely wonderful but if not…you will still have a great garden to make you happy and keep you occupied as friends do.  Relax, breathe and take some time…no need to rush.

Music Break – Good Bye Girl

You Tube doesn’t have the original version by David Gates of Bread but this cover is decent of this beautiful song. If you can find the original version on ITunes or to download it is oh so pretty.

The second video is David Gates singing “Everything I Own” I’ve always loved his sweet soulful voice.

Store Update – V Tee Duo Packs

From Laurelyne’s are duo packs of Men’s Long Cut Tees on the jacket layer. Copy/Mod For that casual look men love and a long cut to look good with even the lowest cut jeans in your inventory. A V cut neckline which is flattering for the male avatar.  Shadows and wrinkles for a realistic look! Lots of Fashionable colors available and also available from XStreetSL.

See more at Laurelyne’s Mens Store
http://slurl.com/secondlife/Albena/30/106/32/

Fast Track to My Mute List – Second Life Manners

Names removed to avoid further embarassment of the guilty. Content edited to remain a work safe blog.

Him: Wow I just spotted the most beautiful girl in SL
Me: Hi. Thank you for the compliment but I’m dancing with someone.
Him: Yes The envy of the room
Him: You really stand out Put together an incredibly delicious avi
Me: Thank you, I made my own skin and shape so I could be unique in Second Life.
Him: A real prize then
Him: I would love to have my hands on that ass right now
Me: Please, I would like to give him all of my attention.
Him: Any chance you are free later or would like to switch dance partners You look bored with him
Me: I’m not bored at all and you do need to move on to another target as I’m really not interested. I will leave when he does.
Him: You would like me better What I wouldn’t love to do with you {snipped some lines of rather graphic content}
Him: You there You haven’t said anything
Me: It is rather rude to pester a woman when she is slow dancing with someone else. I’m quite happy right where I am. Please just stop.
Him: Will you be free tomorrow
Him: Anytime tomorrow just name a time
Him: Hello
Me: Please just move on to someone else. Not interested.
Him: You are missing out
Him: Hello
Him: Cold hearted *****
Me: Welcome to my Mute list, do enjoy your stay.

I do think it is very rude to attempt to pick someone up when they are dancing with someone else. He started out fine with his compliments but then the conversation very quickly degraded into some graphic content from a total stranger, which considering the circumstances was very unwelcome. Despite being told I wasn’t interested to move on, he persisted still thus leaving muting him the only alternative to shut him up so I could enjoy my afternoon out.

Very seldom I think you would be sucessful when trying to get someones attention when they are wrapped in the arms of another, gently swaying to music. There was plenty of women dancing in that same room alone that might have welcomed his attention where as I did not. Why bother unless it is rejection you seek?

As for the gentleman I was dancing with, I had a wonderful time and look forward to that next dance.

Music Break – What Can I Do?

Darkenon’s Second Life – New Posts

Just a note to let you know Darkenon’s new Second Life Blog has some new posts up.  He’s been busy over there!  There is an orginal poem posted under the title of “Musings” that is especially good and does show how much better his writing is than mine.  I can’t write a poem to save my soul yet it seems to come so natural to him.  Check it out at http://dwirsing.wordpress.com/

Laurel’s Shopping Pick – Blackberries

I came across this shop in the afternoon and wanted to blog a bit about it.  It’s called Blackberries and has elegant evening wear as well as some shorter more casual skirts like the one I am wearing in the picture.  The skirts are modify and I had to adjust mine because I do have a bit of a bum.  If you are more slender than I am, the skirts should fit well right out of the box. 

A good selection of colors which I like to see, as I always find a single outfit that I wish I had in a few other colors.  There is a teleport to a reduced area upstairs but that seems to be unfinished yet at the time of this review as there are items up there not for sale or at 315L so check back on that later. 

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Fashion/21/103/38/

Kissing Frogs

{This post was inspired by a conversation with Greeneyes}

Greeneyes remarked how she only seems to have “pigs” approach her in Second Life.  I had responded back that she should wait for her prince and not waste any time kissing frogs, to be patient and he will arrive someday.  This is a problem in Second Life for anyone female or those who are not but have a female avatar. (I’m real)  You are approached with some crude or lewd comment and then are expected to throw yourself at the avatar that made the comment.  Guys, that seldom works unless the avatar you are speaking to is another guy in a skirt just waiting for you to come along.  Yet that’s a whole different article to discuss that.

Treat us respectfully and you will get a far better response.  Give it some time, romance and you will in turn be treated better than being muted and thus never given a second chance to try again.  Ask that lovely avatar to dance, talk with her see if she is worth your time, find out her likes and dislikes and let nature take it’s course from there.  You might then find that first kiss comes from her.  *winks* 

It was funny,  I said that comment about frog kissing in general chat and suddenly had every guy in the room IMing me to ask if he was a frog or a prince.  Really hard to tell without some time and conversation,  guys.  Not every guy in Second Life is a pig, as Greeneyes called them but the gentlemen are much harder to find.  Where should you look?  Oh the gentlemen could be off building, scripting, exploring an interesting sim, ballroom dancing or hanging out in clubs that don’t have strippers in them.   Dressing ladylike can be a clue to gentlemen looking for that special person themselves.  If you look like a stripper, you get far worse treatment then someone not dressed that way.  It shouldn’t really be that way but it seems so.  I’ve noticed the difference myself depending on what I pick to wear. The more revealing the clothing, the more negative attention received. 

Where you go seems to make a difference too…the seedier the place…the more nasty the comments.  Second Life is such a big social laboratory that it is hard not to make observations after watching your fellow residents interact.  It takes longer to seperate the princes from the frogs but you are set once you find one as they are also less apt to ditch you on a whim.  Just a matter of holding his interest then and that’s easier if he’s not always off chasing after someone with a shorter skirt. Don’t bother with the frogs, so much to do in Second Life that you don’t need to waste the time and heartache on them.  Take a class, go see a concert, listen to music at a respectable club or work on a project you have been putting off .  You know what?  The people you seek are doing the same things so you are even more apt to meet them.

Oh a tip for guys if you didn’t already figure this out yourself, if you annoy one of us…we will then spread the word to any friend in the room.  If you mistreat one of us, isn’t long before all the girls then give you the cold shoulder or react to your comments with disgust.  Yes, we do have a network.  It’s true.  If that happens then best to teleport to a new location and try something different. The opposite is also true, treat us right and we will gush about how wonderful you are to all our friends then you are the greatest thing after sculptie shoes to Second Life women.

Music Break – Kiss Me

Oh in a flirty mood today so….